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The Gottman Institute
10 hrs ·
"Although we tend to equate a low level of conflict with happiness, a lasting relationship results from a couple’s ability to manage the conflicts that are inevitable in any relationship.” - Dr. John Gottman
Take the Art and Science of Love online to discover tools to help manage conflict in positive and healthy ways with your partner. Use the code ASL10SOCIAL to receive 10% off: http://bit.ly/2x6jfC7
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The Mean Phrase You're Saying to Your Partner Without Realizing It
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The Four Horsemen: Criticism, Contempt, Defensiveness, and Stonewalling
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Conflict is a Normal and Natural Part of Your “Happily Ever After”
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The Gottman Institute
11 September at 18:30 ·
Mindfulness practice does not just enhance your sense of inner awareness. It also helps to increase your awareness of the beauty and blessings in your life.
Exploring mindful gratitude practices can help train your mind to see what’s right over what’s wrong —to see opportunity or challenge instead of signs of defeat.
Sincere efforts to explore the present moment go a long way in bringing you and your partner closer. Discover the impacts of mindfulness on overall relationship wellbeing: https://bit.ly/341D8Jk
The Gottman Institute
20 hrs ·
"You can’t avoid conflict, but you can practice mindfulness to hear your partner and work towards resolving the situation."
Gillian Florence Sanger of Mindfulness Exercises explores how, through mindful listening techniques, we strengthen our capacity to listen to others and start to receive the same in return: https://bit.ly/3dwPdsz
The Gottman Institute
October 7 at 9:25 AM ·
To empathize with your partner’s feelings and really understand them, be committed to hearing them out and getting to the root of their perspective. This doesn’t mean you have to agree, but it’s vital that you understand where they are coming from.
Read about the three perspective shifts that will help you attune to your partner's side of the story, whether or not you agree: https://bit.ly/2GyoiR4
The Gottman Institute
October 2 at 3:03 PM ·
Stonewalling is the last of the Four Horsemen identified by Dr. John Gottman. This happens when one partner is flooding or trying to avoid going there. They withdraw from interaction both verbally and non-verbally, emotionally, and sometimes physically.
The good news is that there is an antidote: agree to take a break to practice self-soothing.
Learn how to spot flooding and keep stonewalling at bay with The Art and Science of Love Online video workshop. Use the code ASL10SOCIAL to receive 10% off: http://bit.ly/2x6jfC7
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Talking to Your Partner about Sex When You Suffer from Chronic Pain
The Gottman Institute
October 26 at 1:01 PM ·
"Physical affection sets the stage for sexual touch that’s focused on pleasure. Without emotional and physical intimacy, your relationship and sex life might feel insufficient and monotonous."
Terry Gaspard, MSW, LICSW shares possible dialogue for couples who want to learn about each other and grow together emotionally and sexually, and how you can talk to your partner about your sexual needs.
Read "The Art of Sensual Communication" on the Gottman Relationship Blog: https://bit.ly/3dYrMZf
The Gottman Institute
October 23 at 2:20 PM ·
Turning towards your partner's bids is one of the simplest ways to build trust in your relationship. It says, "I'm here for you, I see you, and I am a safe place."
Trusting that you and your partner will turn towards one another in emotional moments, as well as in everyday conversation, is truly what good relationships are all about.
Try these 15 ideas to turn towards one another or come up with your own. Revisit this list when you both feel like you need to bring more opportunities to connect into your relationship.
To discover more ways to turn towards one another through conversation, download the Gottman Card Decks app: http://bit.ly/36utsFz
The Gottman Institute
October 22 at 10:17 AM ·
Dr. John Gottman identified four “types” of parents in his research that reflect stereotypes we often learn ourselves, or from our peers, as children: The Dismissing Parent, The Disapproving Parent, The Laissez-Faire Parent, and The Emotion Coaching Parent.
So, what does The Emotion Coaching Parent do that the other three types don't?
The Emotion Coaching Parent seeks to understand the emotional source of their child's behavior. They listen with empathy and validate their child’s feelings. They help their child learn to label their emotions and set limits when they're helping the child to solve problems or deal with upsetting situations appropriately.
Learn how to put the steps of Emotion Coaching to work in your relationship with your child. Use the code EC10SOCIAL to receive 10% off your purchase of Emotion Coaching Online: https://bit.ly/3fSRoHO
The Gottman Institute
October 21 at 11:50 AM ·
If your goal is to reach a state of compromise, you will want to identify your needs and limits first.
In order to feel understood, respected, and honored, try defining your core needs in the area of your problems and the relationship. Don't relinquish anything that you feel is absolutely essential, and identify the areas and ways you're willing to accept influence.
Then, you can begin to move towards compromise.
In the Art and Science of Love Online, Drs. John and Julie Gottman provide a roadmap to help you and your partner to make headway in the gridlocked problems you may be facing in your relationship.
Learn the art of compromise when you and your partner take the Art and Science of Love Online. Get 25% off with code 25ASL2020: http://bit.ly/2x6jfC7
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November 3, 2019 at 2:41 PM ·
The Gottman Institute
March 26 at 4:01 PM ·
A lasting relationship is one that repairs often.
Discover how learning to give, accept and identify repairs can transform your relationship on the Gottman Relationship Coach "What to Do After a Fight" program: https://bit.ly/3ci5PUO
Such a great reminder!
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March 3 at 7:20 AM ·
It's a good mid-week reminder.
The Gottman Institute
February 22 at 12:05 PM ·
After observing thousands of couples in our Love Lab for more than four decades, Dr. John Gottman discovered that most couples aren't arguing about specific topics like finances, sex, parenting, or dealing with difficult in-laws.
Instead, they're fighting about a failure to emotionally connect.
Our research also concluded that there are ways to have more productive conflict so your relationship can thrive for years to come. Discover tools to help you and your partner deal with conflict on the Gottman Relationship Coach: http://bit.ly/3aK1gDc
What a great idea of a way to connect, especially when some of us are without power.
The Gottman Institute
February 15 at 4:30 PM ·
To truly know your partner, it is necessary to first know yourself.
Understanding yourself can help you share who you are with your partner. With the stressors of daily life, reflecting on important questions of self-actualization can easily be forgotten.
Set aside intentional time to answer the following questions about your personal triumphs and strivings.
You may find it helpful to write your responses down or to share them out loud with your partner. And remember, no matter how you choose to complete this exercise, take your time, revisit these prompts as needed, and come back to them another time if you're feeling overwhelmed.
The Gottman Institute
February 2 at 3:00 PM ·
Do you celebrate the small words and gestures that your partner does for you? You might already have a running mental list, but are you sharing your appreciation with them?
On the latest episode of Small Things Often, hear why you and your partner need to start loving out loud: http://bit.ly/SmallThingsOften
The Gottman Institute
February 1 at 1:30 PM ·
The first step toward improving or enhancing your relationship is to understand what happens when they fail.
Learning about their failures can prevent you and your partner from making the same mistakes or rescue your relationship if you already have. Based on Dr. John Gottman's groundbreaking research in “The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work,” these are the six things that can lead to relationship failure: http://bit.ly/3pEO8El
