Chaela Stewart, LMFT, Connecting Couples Therapy

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Counseling & Mental Health in Santa Rosa, CA
Counseling & Mental Health
Health and Medical
Marriage & Family Counseling

Hours

Monday
8:00AM - 1:00PM
Tuesday
8:00AM - 8:00PM
Wednesday
8:00AM - 4:00PM
Thursday
8:00AM - 8:00PM
Friday
8:00AM - 6:00PM
Saturday
Closed
Sunday
Closed

Location

558 B St
Santa Rosa, CA
95401

About

I work with couples and individuals in various degrees of relationship distress and help them create more secure attachment relationships. I love helping clients find real ways of connecting more deeply and authentically in order to live a more fulfilling and satisfying life.

During times of stress, unmet needs can bring out the best or the worst in a person. I help couples to recognize the root of relational insecurity and to develop security both internally and interpersonally. I also work with couples on the brink of, or in the process of, divorce to create secure coparenting practices.

My style is most influenced by the Psychobiological Approach to Couples Therapy (PACT) and Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFT). I use attachment-based therapies, to get at the root of couple problems, usually based in an insecure attachment style. I work experientially to create lasting, deeper emotional connection.
I am a Level 2 PACT Clinician with Stan Tatkin, author of "Wired for Love" in his Psychobiological Approach to Couples Therapy. I also have trained with Gordon Neufeld, author of "Hold onto your Kids" in his attachment based, developmental model of working with ADHD and anxious kids.

My style is present and empathetic. I care deeply for each client that I work with and I honor each person's story, both the strengths and challenges. From a place of compassion I tune in to the experience of my clients and I help them access somatic experiences that the body is holding as well as confront learned ways of defending that are no longer working. Prioritizing a strong therapeutic relationship with my clients, I walk the line between lovingly drawing out feelings, fears, and somatic experiences in the body that need healing, and gently confronting defenses and reactions that are no longer serving. I help clients address what is holding them back from potential growth and intimacy. I deeply see my clients for who they are, and I call them to greater capacity both within themselves and within their relationship. I do this safely and through modeling an authentic relationship with clients in the room.

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Services

  • Couples Therapy
  • Co-parenting Support

Latest

Key is....CONNECTION Lost Connections May 1 at 2:41 AM · In the research for my book about depression, Lost Connections, I was taught by scientists about 9 different causes of depression and anxiety. How many have you experienced? (I talk about the solutions in the book)
This is a good one to remember, especially when in close quarters every day! The PACT Institute March 19 at 6:36 PM · Everyone has a different social-emotional processing speed. In PACT, we call slow processors “tortoises” and fast processors “hares.” When it comes to arguments, the hare has an unfair advantage. They can express their point quicker, leaving the tortoise, who is unable to express themself as fast, struggling to keep up. Intervene by confronting the hare in these situations. They can slow down where the tortoise can’t speed up. It’s important for hares to see that their advantage is ultimately a disadvantage for both them and their partner. If one partner is always “winning” fights, that means the other’s needs aren’t being met, which will eventually come around to harm the relationship as a whole.
Connecting Couples Therapy is now a group private practice! We now have both licensed and associate Marriage and Family Therapists!
Dr. Stan Tatkin September 18, 2019 at 1:01 PM · We pick partners we recognize. They are similar to our close family or ourselves. If there’s a problem, it’s likely not with who we picked. It’s that we don’t know how to handle each other. Learning your attachment styles, fears, and sensitivities can help you better manage each other.
This is an important one Dr. Stan Tatkin August 29, 2019 at 7:15 PM · If your partner made up for their mistake, make sure they know that. Otherwise, they'll still feel like they're on the hook.
Dr. Stan Tatkin May 20, 2019 at 4:00 PM · There are certain moments in life where you absolutely have to be there for your partner. No matter what you do, it will be impossible to make up for saying no. These times include: when your partner is sick, facing news from a doctor, in the hospital, at a family member’s funeral, or celebrating a milestone or achievement. Do your best to be available whenever they need you, but especially during times like these.
An excellent (albeit long) article on societal and childhood anxiety and the ineffective parental accommodation of such. I highly recommend parents of children age 0-25 read this! https://www.theatlantic.com/magazine/archive/2020/05/childhood-in-an-anxious-age/609079/ THEATLANTIC.COM What Happened to American Childhood?

Information

Company name
Chaela Stewart, LMFT, Connecting Couples Therapy
Category
Counseling & Mental Health
Est
2007

FAQs

  • What is the phone number for Chaela Stewart, LMFT, Connecting Couples Therapy in Santa Rosa CA?
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    Chaela Stewart, LMFT, Connecting Couples Therapy is located at this address: 558 B St Santa Rosa, CA 95401.
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    Chaela Stewart, LMFT, Connecting Couples Therapy store hours are as follows: Mon: 8:00AM - 1:00PM, Tue: 8:00AM - 8:00PM, Wed: 8:00AM - 4:00PM, Thu: 8:00AM - 8:00PM, Fri: 8:00AM - 6:00PM, Sat-Sun: Closed.